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Friday, May 28th, 2010

Feature Article in Culture by Casey Kettleson / May 28, 2010

What are the secrets to a hot relationship? Stars of the Bravo’s hit TV show, The Millionaire Matchmaker’s Destin Pfaff and Rachel Federoff are here to help us all hit it like Beckham…

This may be hard to image, but while we can choose a great pair of heels or a killer coffee table, we’re not always the best when it comes to relationships – that’s why we’ve enlisted the help of The Millionaire Matchmaker‘s Destin Pfaff and Rachel Federoff! Not only have they set up hundreds of happy couples, but they’re happily married with a new baby boy and a style all their own.

We’re pleased to get schooled on the language of love from these experts and already have the first round of questions (as asked by YOU) and their answers:

Q: My one-year anniversary is coming up with my girlfriend, but I don’t have enough money to get her any nice jewelry. What do you suggest I do for the occasion?

Rachel Federoff: Romance is key! You don’t need to spend a lot of money to make it special. Destin made reservations at a restaurant called Vibrato, dinner and live music. He had a limo pick us up and take us to and from the restaurant, he brought a bottle of champagne to drink on the way…it was magical! Or you can always make her a candle light dinner with rose petals etc. Be creative and you will make her happy.

Destin Pfaff: With most women it’s about action, not item. Having said that, it’s also about sacrifice. If you sold your iPod to get her that beautiful necklace she once admired in a store window – that sacrifice you made will multiply its value to her times 100 – and keep that special place she has in her heart for you warm.

Q: What assumptions can you make about a guy from the look of his apartment? I always go for the neat-freak and end up in a boring relationship.

RF: A lot can tell you about a man’s home. You don’t want the slob and yes sometimes the neat freak can equate to a dull man. I think somewhere in the middle works, a guy can be clean but unorganized or cluttered.

DP: A man is a man is a man. As long as there’s not pizza under the coach cushions, pee splatters on the toilet seat and 5 month old Chinese food in the fridge, consider yourself good. Plus neat doesn’t equal boring, and messy doesn’t equal exciting – a lot of times it can be the opposite.

Q: I’m not looking for a guy to take care of me, but every now and then I wish my boyfriend would spoil me. Any tips on how to drop a hint?

RF: Well honesty is always the best policy…tell him you would love for him to be more romantic with you. Tell him sweetly, not like a drill sergeant. Let him know a girl likes to be treated every now and then. Lastly, do nice things for him! Show him how it’s done! Take him out; be romantic and creative with him! Do his laundry, cook for him, etc. If he doesn’t get the hint by this then you know he’s not the one.

DP: EXACTLY! Don’t nag, or the guy will turn off. Do nice for him, show him what you want and he should reciprocate and eventually do it on his own once he’s trained. If he doesn’t get the hint, drop him.

Need more help than this? Click here for contact information to set up your consultation with Destin or Rachel today.

What love questions would you like the Millionaire Matchmakers to answer? Leave your question as a comment below or feel free to email us at editors@styledon.com

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